3 Self Empowerment Tips

3 Self Empowerment Tips you can use right now: Part I

Have you been in a place in your life where nothing is going right?  You can’t believe this is  happening to you or you just don’t know how your life brought you here?

Many people have those thoughts – but the real question is: where do you go from there? How do you move upwards and on wards?

It all begins with empowering yourself to take charge of your own life. Not allowing others to influence or make your choices for you, using your own strengths to learn how to make your own choices about all areas of your life.  Below are three tips to help you start doing exactly that.

  1. Figure out what you want and act on it.  Think big and forget realistic goals and dreams. Some of us forget what it’s like to dream. So think of  a 5 year-old that you know and learn from their freedom with their thoughts and their carefree, free flowing passion for life. Every one of us, no matter how old or young, has the ability to be free and dream big. I challenge you to forget your current situation and express what you truly want.
  2. Empower your mind. Cultivating a new mindset is about your willingness to grow and expand as a human being. Observe your current, dominant thoughts, beliefs and habits. Do they serve you in a positive manner or do they keep you stuck? Cultivating a new mindset is also about acknowledging that you can control your mind and that it does not have to be the other way around.
  3. Check your personality and attitude.  Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally negative? You can’t go through life with these attributes or you will get no where fast. Get rid of the terrible traits and habits that unendingly hamper your progression. And really, who wants a grouchy supporter anyhow?

Take it one small step at a time and enjoy the process.  Stay tuned for Part II.

This is Karen D signing off.
Your Next Level Coach for Life.
Self-Leadership and Communication Coach

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3 Main Reasons Why We Procrastinate and What to do About it.

Today we’re talking about the big P word. Yes, the word PROCRASTINATION.

We all do it, but for some of us it is the foundation of our existence, and it helps us get no where fast. We know what we want to do and should do. But still we end up spending hours upon hours doing “easier” work or escaping via TV, computer, music, the phone, sleep etc..

To get us moving a way from procrastination, we need to start with why we procrastinate to begin with, and why we sabotage ourselves even when we know what we need to do. Here are three main reasons we procrastinate:

1. We subconsciously tell ourselves that it is overwhelming.
2. Fear of failure.
3. Fear of success, not failure.

Although there are a number of reasons for procrastination, the results are often the same. An endless cycle of anxiety, avoidance, getting nothing done and most important not living your life to the fullest.

Today I want you to say enough already, and use these 3 tips to start to remedy your PROCRASTINATION Disorder.

HANG OUT MORE OFTEN.
But, the stipulation is to hang out with people who inspire you take action, a go-getter and hard worker. Those people who’s energy and action help to light a fire under your tail, so that you too, take action.

STOP EVERYTHING AND CLARIFY.
Make sure there is alignment between what you want and what you are doing. Ask your self these questions: What exactly do you want to achieve/get done? Why do you want to achieve it/get it done? What 3 things should you do to get there? What are the first 3 steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

KNOW YOUR PEAK TIMES.
Identify your most productive time of day, own the fact that this time works best for you and GET YOUR STUFF DONE!

Listen, nothing’s wrong with a little escape from time to time. But if you procrastinate too much you will never get the important things done. The next time the big “P” plagues you, check yourself and Stop everything and clarify, Know your peak times and Hang out more often.

4 TIPS TO MANAGE SUPERWOMAN SYNDROME

To all of my fellow Superwomen out there, hail to those extra pair of hands, eyes in the back of your head and that 7th sense. As we walk and run through each and everyday of our lives, we almost always have our superwoman cape on. Working, being, doing, helping, holding, listening and hugging those who make up our community at home and at work. Every once in a while we need to stop and remember that we can’t always do everything and be all to everyone.

As you venture through superwoman hood, there are some choices that you have to make to ensure that you don’t reach the point of burn out. Ultimately affecting your health, both mentally and physically. Always remember, if you do not have your health, you can’t help anyone!

Here are some tips to help you manage superwoman syndrome:

1) Make a list of everything that needs to be done each day. That way you are able to get all of your thoughts down and reduce the number of things bouncing around in your head.

2) Re-look at the list from tip #2 and cross off those items that do not have to happen or get done that day. If the importance or lack thereof of the item will be the same tomorrow or even next week, cross it off of your list – it clearly does not need to happen today.

3) Learn to say NO and mean it! I have a little secret that I want to share with you – it is ok to say no. It doesn’t mean that you are incapable, inadequate, or weak. It means, no, you do not want to or no you can’t realistically make time to do it. Either of those reasons is just as good as the other.

4) Include at least 15 minutes of “me time” each and everyday. I call it brain dead time. 15 minutes of slowing down, un-focusing and disconnecting from what’s going on around you. I mean no thinking about what you need to do after the 15 minutes, no planning tomorrows list and no extra company. This is “me time”, not girlfriend time, partner time, it’s “me time.” Sit down and sip a cup of tea, meditate, sit on a park bench, park you car and just breathe – I don’t care what you do, just take “your” 15 minutes.

Essentially superwoman syndrome is something that many of us can’t escape. But always remember, we always have choices.

So choose to make the right choices, starting with the 4 tips above.

This is Karen D, signing off…..
“Your Next Level Coach” for Life.

Please share this post with all of the wonderful, busy and hard working women you have in you life.

4 Ways To Get the “F” Word Out Of Your Vocab

Ladies, enough with the “F” word! The only way that you can fail, is if you give up! The only way that you can fail is if you don’t even try!

Ladies, get that non-progressive, self-defeating “F word” out of your head and out of your vocabulary ASAP.

The right question to be asking your self and acting upon is; how will I set myself up for business success?

My belief is that the “F word” all starts with a mindset. If you choose to focus on failing and why things won’t work – I can promise you that you will have a long road ahead of you to attain business success. The right mindset, a positive mindset is what’s required to get the “F word” out of your vocabulary permanently.

When your mind is consumed with why it won’t work, then you have already taken 5 step backwards before you have taken even one step forward. If you don’t believe in yourself, your product, or your service, neither will your customers.
Here are some tips to get you setting yourself up for business success and deleting the “F word” from your vocab.

Tip #1

Choose to focus on progressive thoughts and how you will make it work and how you will be successful. But don’t be disillusioned, thoughts alone don’t bring about success – positive thought, hard work and progressive action bring about business success.

Tip #2

Choose to not fight change and learn how to embrace it (no matter how difficult it may seem in the moment). Ladies, the reality is this: times change, your clients change, market conditions change – the decision is yours, are you going to submit to the “F word”? Of course not! Make a conscious decision to be willing to embrace change or what will happen is that “change” will manage you – and that is when you lose control. Be intentional about looking for the opportunities in times of change – trust me, they are there.

Tip #3

Nobody likes to make mistakes. However, the simple reality of life is that at some point, all of us are going to be wrong, do something bad, or somehow screw something up. That’s just life.

As a business owner, recognize that you are going to make a lot of mistakes, it’s not the “F word”. Set yourself up to learn from mistakes you make and things that have not gone as planned, use these new “lessons learned” to fuel your success.

Tip #4

At most times we are our biggest fans of our products or services – we know that what we do or sell can help a lot of people. But the real question is – Who else knows? If you truly believe in your product or service, show and tell the world (your target audience). If they don’t know, they can’t benefit from the incredible stuff you have to offer, which equals no sales and no income. Ladies forget about being humble when getting your company name out there – just do it. Put the “F word” to the fire and push full steam ahead.

On a closing note, we should never accept and embrace failing fast as a concept. You can call it failure but I choose to call it – learning “WHAT NOT TO DO”, which is just as important as learning “WHAT TO DO”.

So ladies, let us toast to permanently eliminating the “F word” – Cheers!

Karen Donaldson is a Motivational Speaker, Public Speaking and Presentation skills coach and Founder of Karen Donaldson Inc and Panache Life Inc. She has helped numerous executives, entrepreneurs and sales professionals become panic free presenters, communicate with confidence and clarity, command attention whenever they speak and deliver presentations that close the sale.

Visit Karen at www.karendonaldsoninc.com for free resources, one-on-one coaching programs and upcoming events.